Top 25 acts of chivalry in 2025
#1: Taking me to get an abortion (as needed).
Welcome, my cutie pie cuntalicious class. Today, the topic on the board is CHIVALRY. A very gendered concept, chivalry is typically used to describe noble, masculine, well-mannered behavior that men can do, specifically in regards to women they are courting. Opening the car door, giving you their jacket, paying for meals, defending your honor, that sort of thing. Not only is chivalry gendered, it’s also extremely outdated, and actions that we would previously deem chivalrous are not necessarily desirable—or even attractive—anymore.
Getting into a physical altercation because someone wronged me? It’s giving anger issues. Dropping me off at my front door? Babe, don’t act like you’re not coming in. Putting your jacket over a puddle? That simply couldn’t be dumber! Like, can’t we just walk around it?
Of course, I do find it attractive when a man is polite and considerate of others—something that falls under the definition of “chivalrous” but should really just be considered basic human decency. You shouldn’t just open the door for me because we’re dating—you should open the door for anyone because it’s respectful! The biggest act of chivalry, IMO, is treating everything with kindness, regardless of their gender or whether or not you want to fuck them.
But what about the nitty gritty? Do we still want flowers? Do we want you to pull out our chair or open the car door? In a world where gender roles are being challenged and women are finding strength in their independence, what does chivalry look like? And do we even want it at all?
After careful consideration, I have put together a list of what I find chivalrous in 2025. Obviously, these are just my personal thoughts on what I would enjoy from someone I’m dating, and everyone is different. So don’t come for me. XOXO.
25 things I find chivalrous in 2025:
Taking me to get an abortion (as needed)
Eating me out for a really long time, not asking for a blowjob in return
Not walking too fast. My legs are short goddammit
Saying that the Love Island girls aren’t your type when I ask who you’d want to couple up with
Getting a sweet treat even if you’re not hungry because I don’t want to eat mine alone
Not poking your dick into my butt first thing in the morning
Creating the plan not because you’re the man but because I’m indecisive
Offering to eat the candy flavor that I don’t like (orange and green, usually)
Feeling super angry and disturbed by the state of my reproductive freedom (non-performatively)
Being in charge of the airport logistics so I can turn my brain off
Falling asleep second (if you fall asleep before me, I will be offended)
Calling out your friends if they have problematic views, if they cheat on someone, etc.
Getting tested for STDs and sharing your results with me <3
Not following any Insta Baddies (search them on ur own time like a normal person)
Never EVER playing devil’s advocate
Never EVER making me get on top
Letting me know before you cum (it’s the little things)
Saying “I can’t believe they’re making you do that” when I share any task I have to complete that falls under my job description
Listening to Taylor Swift without saying “all her music sounds the same”
Asking me to be your valentine regardless of how long we have been together
Having two pillows for me to sleep with
Defending my honor if they come with regular fries but I ordered sweet potato (I actually ordered regular but forgot)
Texting me photos of cute dogs you see
Bringing me a present from that trip you went on
Getting me flowers. Because who doesn’t want flowers?
There you have it, my top 25 chivalrous acts. Please LMK what you think defines chivalry in 2025!
#18 is my fave but #3 is very relatable
Reads like a list I would do for my near infant daughter. Not her mother - an adult.