Yesss. I think it’s our generation. They take the easy way out and they like to hide behind screens. If they never plan on seeing us again then they don’t care about ghosting us. Weirdly it reminds me of cyber bullying in the way that people hide behind screens and do/say things they wouldn’t if they were in person. Behind a screen, you can do anything
Again, it's not you. The first-date script is well known, making it easy to pull off because you're both pulling in the same direction. But the frisson of novelty can hide the fact that men often fake being witty/charming/rich/accomplished on the first date. The more dates they go on the more likely they'll be exposed. Hence ghosting.
My advice? Go on absolutely mundane dates, like a walk in the park, with no sitting down and no alcohol. Or grocery shopping.
It happens from the other side of the Great Divide as well. I've been ghosted by women on occasion. It's easier than saying goodbye (and from the woman's point of view they often fear violent responses to rejection). It's nasty but it's part of life.
Is it possible they’re discovering your blog?
Yesss. I think it’s our generation. They take the easy way out and they like to hide behind screens. If they never plan on seeing us again then they don’t care about ghosting us. Weirdly it reminds me of cyber bullying in the way that people hide behind screens and do/say things they wouldn’t if they were in person. Behind a screen, you can do anything
Again, it's not you. The first-date script is well known, making it easy to pull off because you're both pulling in the same direction. But the frisson of novelty can hide the fact that men often fake being witty/charming/rich/accomplished on the first date. The more dates they go on the more likely they'll be exposed. Hence ghosting.
My advice? Go on absolutely mundane dates, like a walk in the park, with no sitting down and no alcohol. Or grocery shopping.
Here's an excellent post on the subject:
https://www.secondperson.dating/p/the-good-men-arent-gone-theyre-delayed
It happens from the other side of the Great Divide as well. I've been ghosted by women on occasion. It's easier than saying goodbye (and from the woman's point of view they often fear violent responses to rejection). It's nasty but it's part of life.